Converstation stoppers.

LOL. Yesterday while waiting to get in for Baby R's immunizations a lady who was in the waiting room started asking me about my kids. Are they all yours? Are there twins?? ( I guess that somehow makes it more understandable then just having 4 children in 5 years) Two boys then a girl and then a boy?? I was nursing Baby R so I explained. No 2 boys and then 2 girls. She was nice and polite. Curious mostly I think. Then she asked me the question we get constantly. From everyone, strangers in the stores, people walking their dogs, family, friends. Everyone. She asked me if we were done now. Now I'm not sure why people ask. Probably they are just curious, maybe a bit nosy, some of them are down right horrified with the # we have now and just speak before thinking. Those last ones really get on my nerves, I'd rather have my 4 well behaved children then their 1 or 2 spoiled rotten little brats. I often get asked how I do it with 4 gasp gasp active children. As they try to hold their child in their arms or even keep them in the same room/area as they are. Often with the child screaming and fighting or just plain taking off. I just smile at them and look at my 4 holding hands or standing quietly waiting for me. And tell them, not what I do because they really don't want to know. I know. I have told them and they have all kinds of reasons why that couldn't possibly work for their precious wonderful expressive child. "They are just expressing themselves..." I've heard it while buying groceries, while in the library, while at the park, while in a church. No one was listening anyway so I stopped saying it. Now I just tell them that we practice at home. We practice being good, we practice sitting quietly, we practice listening. We practice, practice, practice. This seems to be something people can understand. Of course there is more to it then that. But the people who ask us if we are done having kids are normally just curious.. they aren't looking for answers but to fulfill their curiosity. With these people I just smile, look them right in the eyes and say. "My husband would like 12 children." Now sometimes they gap like fish out of water, a few smile and say go for it, most gap like fish. Now depending on the person I often add... "but I told him we'd take them one at a time." Because that question is often the next, "Well... what about you??" I wonder if they really think I would have married Papa knowing that he wanted 12 children if I did not also want a large family. I just keep smiling and keep practicing!!!